The Best Month
Every person on earth if he or she looks back, can think of something somewhere that impacted their life in a positive way, Quite possibly even altered the path they were taking in life. I can think of many such moments in my past. Some of the notable mentions would be these.
1. When I chose to teach school as an Amish teenager. Some of the most rewarding years of my life!
2. The day I finally chose to leave the Amish and my family behind for good.
3. And finally, the day I committed to marry a woman who was non-Amish.
There were many more, but I am about to celebrate the 1 year anniversary of probably the most important month of my life! NOVEMBER 2010! There are 3 big deals that happened during this month that I will mention in story format.
The first and smallest of these was this. I had been hunting on my wife’s Grandpa’s property for 7 yrs, and had bagged several large bucks, but in the summer of 2010, he passed on and the family sold the property. For the first time since I had left the Amish, I was without a place to hunt on. I remembered the huge trophy I had seen several times on her grandpa’s property, and how he had eluded me, and I was saddened by the fact that he would probably never hang on my wall now.
One week before deer season began, I called a friend in Jefferson City and asked if he had a place I could hunt. He had 2 farms, a 250 acre farm where he had seen several large bucks on his cameras, and an 80 acre farm where his cameras has seen small bucks and does. He gave me permission to hunt there. I was not a happy person, but it was better then not hunting at all.
The rest is history. By reading my previous deer story in the archives, you will see that I got the 3rd largest buck recorded in Calloway County since 1920. Against all odds, truely at the right place at the right time.
The 2nd of these was this. I had been out of the Amish for over 8 years. Ever since I had left the Amish, I had been in construction. I owned my own business and was pretty successful. We had a nice, big, new house that I had built all by myself with a large mortgage payment. We had a decent sized family, with my wife and I, 9 year old step son Cole, and 2 year old Ella. Yes, the bills were often hard to pay, but we managed somehow. However, I had never done well in the Missouri heat, and in the spring and summer of 2010 I began to have serious problems. After my 3rd and most serious heat stroke, of which I was unresponsive for several days, my doctor told me if I have one more of these, I probably won’t recover. In other words, I had to find something else to do. I was devastated! I only had my GED that I had taken after leaving the Amish, but without any college degree, what could I do, and where could I go? What was even more, we were pregnant again, and as hard as it often was paying the bills before, now with one more mouth to feed, and with no work, I was at my wits end!
I looked at becoming a banker, which is what my wife does, but starting wages were not good. I Looked at many different options, but finally one day I was speaking with my cousin in Columbia, Mo. who sold cars, and he said, “why don’t you come up here and I’ll arrange an interview”? I smiled at the thought of being in sales. I was sure I was gonna fall flat on my face. Several days later, on August 15th, 2010 I was hired. My first 2 months were a blur, and the finances were so tight we were about to lose the house, and I was thinking of selling all my construction tools just to make mortgage payments, daycare, etc. I was worried of losing my job going into the winter of 2010, and knew if I did, it would mean going back to first base, and selling all we had worked so hard for, and moving into an apartment.
In November, 2010, I sold 20 vehicles, and out of 18 salesman, I was the salesman of the month, and the money paid some bills to keep us afloat. For the first time I realized that if I just kept faith, maybe there was a future for me in Sales without taking a college education.
The 3rd and last of these was this. As I had mentioned before, we had become pregnant again. It was a complicated pregnancy. On a routine checkup at about the 2 1/2 month stage, we received the bad news and saw the xrays of the baby. I can’t remember the word for it, but the majority of it’s intestines were protruding from it’s stomach. We were told that there is nothinig you can do for this until after the baby is born and that their is a 90 to 95% chance it would be mentally challenged, would probably be handicapped for life, and that we had 2 weeks to make a decision on whether we were going to keep it or not. I remember the dark evening sitting on our back deck after we got home from the doctor visit, where my wife and I sat there and very briefly entertained this thought. I also remember that although at that time in my life I wasn’t all that strong of a religous person, I knew what God would want us to do, and that our decision became to move forward and place our trust in God, even if it meant one of us would have to quit working so as to be able to remain at home to take care of this child for the rest of it’s life.
For myself, I am an analyzing person. Trying to think my way through this scenerio was frustrating! I knew that all the plans and dreams we had for our future and the future of our kids was all of a sudden being jeoperdized.
It was a feeling of peacefulness when I finally accepted that whatever God has in store for us is good enough for me. It was a humbling moment when I had to quit trying to control every aspect of my life, and put my trust in someone I had always been taught about, but had never seen or had no serious proof even existed.
On November 1, 2010, Anna Grace Gingerich was born in Columbia, Mo. She weighed 7 lbs even, and was perfectly healthy. Not the slightest bit of a health issue. Truely a miracle that Anna, a bundle of energy and joy, was a 5 to 10% odds beater!
I have since become much stronger in my faith in God, but am still growing. However, this is my story of November 2010, and I am thinking of making it a holiday in the Gingerich household so as to remember that one month in my life where I was at several huge crossroads in my life, and I can’t be thankful enough for the direction that I was steered.
And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have FAITH as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.